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Money Matters

So it's time we wrote about the dollars and sense.  All this news coverage is great.  We were the top story on the 5:00 news and got another shout-out at 10:00.  It's because of you and all your support on the message boards.  A big question has been about the money involved.  Countless people have suggested fundraising as a way to make this surgery happen.  Here are our thoughts.

The surgery costs approximately $120,000.  That's doable.  Let's have the 5Ks, pancake breakfasts, and lemonade stands.  Matt and I would do what every family does with medical debts, work hard and pay them off over time.  But if something were to happen, such as me being hospitalized for the rest of my pregnancy or the baby needing to be in NICU, those costs could be potentially devastating.  That's an unwise risk that Matt and I are not willing to take.  Remember, only 20% of moms do not have complications with the surgery.  If we get denied again, we cannot shop around at other hospitals hoping they will do the surgery.  It's too big of a risk for them also.  Believe me, we've asked.  Pro bono is not an option.  It's also not an option to go ahead with the surgery and ask for the insurance to pay up later since they've already denied it multiple times.  The hospital and doctors are not the bad guys in this situation.  Please, EMI, approve it tomorrow.  Don't make us agonize over the weekend and delay our scheduled surgery.  If I have to cancel our flights one more time....!!

That being said, my sister is the only one who can get Matt and me to budge on our "no fundraising policy".  Older sisters can do that.  So party at Del Taco this Saturday !  Lesa (my sister) and Ryan (my brother-in-law) own the Del Taco on 106th S. and Redwood Road in South Jordan.  They are donating 100% of the sales to this cause.  I'll be the pregnant lady with shrimp taco sauce dripping down my shirt.

The care package that was sent to us in Houston had a book of quotes in it.  Here's one that really touched us tonight.

When God wants a great work done in the world or a great wrong righted,
He goes about it in a very unusual way.
He doesn't stir up his earthquakes or send forth his thunderbolts.  
Instead, he has a helpless baby born, perhaps in a simple home
And of some obscure mother.
And then God puts this idea into the mother's heart, 
And she puts it into the baby's mind.  
And then God waits.

E.T. Sullivan


  1. Ah, I love hearing about the control I have in your life. Now, go to bed!

  2. Love this post...and your quote. Funny...Lesa has the same effect on me too..she can be so bossy. Love her! Thanks Lesa and Ryan for being amazing!

  3. Love that quote! THAT's exactly what is happening!

    I was getting my hair done in Sandy last night, and a client walks in, telling us all about this story she had seen on the news--and it was YOURS!! Made my heart smile to know that you are touching lives all around!

    Now, I'm just waiting for the words: THEY WILL BE COVERED!!

  4. Wow, what a powerful quote Mil. It is so very true. This little baby girl of yours is already touching so many people's lives! I can't wait to get me some taco's tomorrow. Your sister is amazing, which doesn't surprise me since she is related to you. :)

  5. Hi Millie - don't know if you remember us (we definitely remember you!) from BYU 171st. We are praying for you and your sweet family. Wish we were close enough to buy a ton of tacos tomorrow. So sorry you are struggling through this trial; we are all rooting for you!
    Much love,
    Dan and Leslie Newman

  6. Millie, can Corey and I just donate money somewhere? Unfortunately, neither of us can eat at Del Taco because of the shrimp. Corey's deathly allergic to it and if I eat it and I'm around him, it can make him very sick.

  7. Anyone with shrimp allergies (Or doesn't live in Utah!) Here is a way to help


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